Do you know that everyone on this planet earth has positive qualities? Don’t you think it is time to discover your positive qualities? I hope you know how unhealthy a negative self-image can be. And, when your self-beliefs are incorrectly critical, you cheat yourself of a happy and prosperous existence.
But if you suffer from low self esteem (LSE), that may sound a lot easier than it is. Moreover, years of problematic thinking and cognitive distortion can probably not be changed overnight. After all, even if you identify incorrect beliefs about yourself and begin to question them, you may still suffer thoughts of inadequacy.
It means you need to begin to identify your positive qualities. Then, whenever limiting self-beliefs appear, you can remind yourself that your negative self-thoughts are incorrect since you have these outstanding characteristics and habits.
You can do this with a simple list. Write down 5 things you like about yourself on a piece of paper. Don’t think about anything negative. Think about your successes, good relationships, memorable occasions and events. And if you find yourself writing down more than 5 positive self-beliefs, excellent!
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Another way to identify your positive qualities is to study the following list. These are words that psychologists have identified as evidence of positive self-beliefs and behaviours:
- Alert
- Compassionate
- Confident
- Cooperative
- Courteous
- Creative
- Decisive
- Disciplined
- Discrete
- Enthusiastic
- Forgiving
- Friendly
- Generous
- Grateful
- Loyal
- Patient
- Persistent
- Punctual
- Respectful
- Sensitive
- Sincere
Now, consider the behaviours that qualify you for those descriptive terms.
A person with low self esteem (LSE) may be cooperative, generous and always on time. However, because of limiting self-thoughts, they do not notice that these are awesome, positive qualities.
But that is what they are! Another way to identify positive character traits is to type “Positive Personality Adjectives” into an Internet search engine. It will give you a list of things to look for in your life that help you recognize when your self-limiting negative self-image is incorrect.
Do not get too full of yourself, however. Remember, an abnormally high self-image can be as harmful as a low self-image. So, how do you develop a more realistic and objective view of yourself? Always view your successes and failures, achievements and mistakes with a grain of salt.
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You can do that by stepping outside of your situation. Look at your behaviours, beliefs and thoughts from a logical and analytical point of view. It needs to be an unemotional, straightforward, honest appraisal. However, it would be best if you were neutral as well. Look at both sides of the possible situation, action or thought process.
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Always remember that human beings will make mistakes, you and everyone else. Grade your mental beliefs and actions with a “reality measuring stick” rather than an emotional one. Recognize and embrace your failures; do not ignore them, but do not overstate them.
Wrapping Up
So, finding honest friends is a great way to keep yourself grounded. And listen to criticism only from those you know will speak to you truthfully. It can be challenging to develop an objective view of your beliefs and actions, and it all begins with being honest with yourself.